Its funny how one person can be scared of an idea that another person can find to be the most relaxing concept in the world. For example, any attempt at getting me anywhere within three feet of the back seat (pillion) of a moving motorcycle will result in me leaving the area rather more rapidly than usual – on foot. However, I will happily watch TV programmes featuring people riding motorcycles (one of my favourite TV programmes is “The Hairy Bikers” after all).
If you ask people which sense they would least like to lose they will probably say their sight. After all, sight and hearing are the two senses we use the most in our daily lives, aren't they???
So I bet I can confuse you totally – just by telling you one of the ways in which I relieve stress. I take my glasses off.
I can hear you now - “But Inky you need your glasses to be able to see, don't you?”. And your brain might be trying to work out how someone who cannot see clearly without their glasses much further than three centimetres from the end of their nose finds not wearing glasses relaxing. Especially if you have got 20/20 vision.
What you have to remember is this – my natural world is blurry and fluffy. Solid boundaries and edges do not exist in my natural world. When I put my glasses on I am confronted by two sets of boundaries and solid edges – the ones on the objects I am looking at and the ones placed on my by Society – as in I feel I have to be as much like everybody else around me as I can. The funny thing for me is that when I haven't got my glasses on I actually look like most of my friends but I am actually the least like them (well they can wander around without glasses on and not crash into anything or fall over – I can't).
My other forms of relaxation are mostly run-of-the-mill ones – reading, writing, and being near water, listening to music, etc.
There are two others which are kind of connected.
If you want to see me so laid back I am almost horizontal take me to Rotterdam (any part of The Netherlands will do but Rotterdam works the best). That is my personal “safe space” both in my head and physically. You can almost have the same effect if you give me something to read which is written in Dutch.
The other one is – find a Dutch person or a Glaswegian – complete with the accent - for me to speak to. (Luckily I have got a friend who is Glaswegian and we speak every day on the phone.) Why a Glaswegian??? If you slow them down enough you will find the speech pattern is the same as the Dutch one.
What do you do to help you relax?
We all need to take time out for ourselves. If we don't we could end up with major problems regarding our Mental Health.