I would be the first to admit that I am not necessarily the best person when it comes to trying to put my ideas into plain English at times.
There is one cliche which I really get angry when I hear people use it - "You cannot miss what you never had" - mainly because I can disprove it in an instance if you let me.
My experience of the world as most people would know it (and the advertising companies and media insist on portraying it) is nothing like the world as I see it. I mean that both literally and metaphorically.
You only have to spend a few minutes in my company to realise that my view of life can be summed up in one word - sideways. (Please do not try to use words like "Lateral" and "Outside the Box" and "Leftfield". They leave me feeling somewhat disturbed.)
So, how can I disprove the cliche? Quite easily as it happens.
I have never had a Driving Licence (something to do with the DVLA not being too comfortable with the idea of the virtually blind being left in charge of a motorised tin can with serious explosive potential apparently), I have never been able to write with my left hand, I have never been able to really enjoy going to a normal cinema (put it this way - the mental Risk Assessment I have to do whenever I consider going to a normal cinema is nearly as painful as I imagine bouncng down a set of steps would be if I missed my footing).
My experience of the world tells me that there are people who can undertake all the above activities without causing other people to derrange themselves as a result. It also tells me that all three of the above examples are relatively easy for those who can actually do them. (Even though I am righthanded my writing is not exactly the neatest using my right hand - trying to write with my left hand jst makes my brain ache.)
To be perfectly honest - I really wish I could do all the above. Most of the time I usually manage to convince myself that I am better off as I am but there are occasions when I get really upset about it. This is usually when I am forced to remember my limits. Sorry - I mean the limits which society has placed on me due to my sight.
Let's face it - the only way I am ever legally going to be able to get my hands on the steering wheel of a moving vehicle (without supervision) is when they bring out a car like KITT from the original "Knightrider" series - ie, one whch can steer itself. Yet, I am bombarded with people telling me both consciously and subconsciously that I am in some way defective because the only thing I could use a car for is stationary storage space. The fact I love cars and other motorised vehicles is beside the point.
People seem to think that being able to drive (for example) is the best thing you can ever decide to do. Cars are designed for the comfort of the driver with all mod cons built into the top of the range models. Forget the idea of economy for a minute and just bask in the advertisements for the latest ranges of cars. Whilst you are at it you might as well also ignore the fact that my sight could potentially turn me into one of the safest drivers. (See if you can work out my reasons for saying that.)
The only way I could actually not miss what I have never had is if I was totally ignorant of the existence of those exact objects, experiences, etc, in the first place - instead of having their existence thrust front and centre nearly every time I turn around.
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